I couldn’t get a prom date.

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Me, 2 years after high school

I was an international high fashion model with Ford NY for many years, and before that in high school I couldn’t get a prom date for my junior or senior prom.

As I think back to high school and how so many base their future off of what they started or did at that time, I would be a nobody and have no career to speak of. Seriously – I couldn’t make the kick line dance squad  in high school (but for some reason made it in college where the competition was 100 times more competitive than high school), I couldn’t get a lead part in singing no matter WHAT I did (yet a few years later I was a cabaret singer in Miami Beach) and boys wouldn’t even look my way (and after high school I modeled for magazines and bikini campaigns and everything in between).

I’m reminded this as I go shopping for my twin daughters’ dresses for their 6th grade dance. They don’t know what significance the male species will have in their life yet, they don’t even know what to expect at their dance, and God bless them for their innocence. But soon, they will be competing for dates, dances, try-outs and the like, and I will make it my very best effort to teach them to have confidence in themselves no matter what is going on in school, how many dates (or not!) they get and what others think of them.

So, as graduation season comes upon us and new beginnings are happening, no matter what age you are if you are reading this – STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF. No matter what others think. Because it’s really all we have in the end, our inner strength with our faith to back it all up. I always believed this, but wish I had someone to tell me more strongly when I had to ask a friend in high school who was in a younger grade to please escort me to my prom.

On another level, but along the same lines of sticking to your guns (no political pun intended), tonight I am interviewing media personality Cherie Corso on What Women Want Talk Radio who has the courage to vocally and very publicly back Trump in his race for the presidency. I admire her bravery in this venture, and am fascinated by how she is brushing off criticism and sticking to her platform.

Stay on the course of what YOU believe in, and all the rest will follow.

Join us for “Authentic Or Appropriate?” on What Women Want Talk Radio live every Wednesday or download here ANYTIME in iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/what-women-want/id959780594

Celebs are people too – really?

Yes, like Marcia Clark – yes, THAT Marcia Clark, former O.J. Simpson Prosecutor.

I had the honor of interviewing Marcia Clark on my show What Women Want Talk Radio, now bestselling legal thriller novelist – go figure.

Well, SHE figured, since she was 3 years old. She wanted to be a writer since way back when…so what distracted her into becoming one of the most well-known prosecutors in the country on her way to eventually becoming an author?

Listen to my show as Marcia is so REAL and so candid about her life, her writing and her passion for making women understand that we can be strong without being nasty. We can be smart without being a “know-it-all.”

We can be whatever we want to be, and kudos to Marcia for knocking that message out of the park by showing it in her life through her successes and voicing it in the press:

What Women Want Talk Radio with Marcia Clark interview:

Fear of Failure? Sounds Ridiculous BUT…

I must admit, the first 853 times I heard this phrase I thought “How ridiculous!”

But guess what? I’ve come to learn that if you don’t know what it means, then perhaps you have never faced it.

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I went to lunch with a radio show guest of mine, Danielle Tate, who I interviewed recently on What Women Want Talk Radio, and we talked about how common this feeling is, yet how uncommon it is for us to admit that we’ve experienced it.

Danielle is the author of “Elegant Entrepreneur: The Female Founders Guide to Starting & Growing Your First Business” and has spoken in front of hundreds of hopeful entrepreneurs about this very subject. As she and I spoke after our interview, I realized how very relevant this subject is to women (and men!) of every age. We don’t think about it but have to face it in every aspect of our lives. Have you ever been laid off/fired from a job? Failure. How about started a business and it folded? Failure. Divorce? Failure. I could name numerous other life happenings that we consider to be “failures” but are actually diving boards which we can spring back from and surface to become better than ever from learning from our “failures.”

I listened to the CEO of Bally Americas, Claudia Cividino, recently speak at an Over 40 Females networking event in NYC and she told us that one of the jobs she had previous to Bally she was fired from and it was her biggest failure/life lesson that she could ever imagine. But after that she ended up with the best job that she could ever imagine, which was at Bally, and it would have never happened if she didn’t get bounced from her previous position. Just like Steve Jobs – he dropped out of college, was fired from more than one job and at first not successful at his business ventures,  BUT – he had to experience his share of failures to get over and above where he imagined himself to be.

SO, my point is…why be afraid of failure if it eventually gets us to where we want to be and more? Everyone has gone through it and if you don’t let it bring you down it can propel you to worlds beyond your imagination… just ask any successful human being.